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ive-never-been-much-given-to-little-social-cliques
i-felt-uncomfortable-in-cliques
i-dont-really-believe-in-cliques-i-think-everyone-can-be-friends-with-everyone
the-worst-cliques-are-those-which-consist-one-man-george-bernard-shaw
i-think-its-perfectly-acceptable-not-to-run-with-cliques
i-think-in-high-school-theres-many-cliques-youre-never-safe-blake-lively
all-recognizable-cliques-came-by-did-those-ungroupable-stragglers-who-were-known-by-their-little-circles-two-three-adi-alsaid
i-grew-up-in-hawaii-i-think-it-was-easier-because-we-did-not-have-cliques-at-high-school
its-amazing-i-love-fact-that-we-are-breaking-down-barriers-denominations-cliques-were-all-going-after-same-goal-becca-wilson
i-went-to-catholic-school-with-40-kids-total-there-were-no-cliques-but-i-suppose-i-was-sporty-good-girl
i-kept-journal-when-i-was-teenager-i-definitely-look-back-on-those-to-see-how-i-dealt-with-friends-cliques-getting-picked-on-boyfriend-breakups
the-teen-years-are-extremely-serious-everything-matters-every-insult-really-hurts-i-know-there-are-cliques-bullying-and-you-dont-yet-understand-steve-martin
dont-give-in-to-all-cliques-popularity-it-means-nothing-i-know-super-popular-guys-guess-what-theyre-just-normal-people-too-leo-howard
my-biggest-problem-in-middle-school-was-catty-girls-cliques-trying-to-figure-out-if-i-wanted-to-be-part-one-those-just-figuring-out-who-i-was-all-lindsey-shaw
the-catholic-church-must-clean-out-the-pedophiles-break-up-the-gay-cliques-tighten-up-the-seminary-and-restore-the-good-name-of-the-priesthood
the-fanatics-have-dirtied-its-fiber-their-mottos-have-reated-thick-layer-mold-over-its-wounds-one-total-intolerance-feeding-on-indoctrination-youth-cliques-rami-ollaik
in-place-intensive-cooperation-among-artists-there-is-battle-for-goods-hatred-partisanship-cliques-jealousy-intrigues-are-natural-consequences-wassily-kandinsky
women-are-naturally-competitive-thats-what-drives-women-to-form-cliques-at-early-age
i-had-couple-friends-from-all-different-cliques-in-school-but-my-true-friends-were-my-gymnastics-teammates-i-grew-up-competing-with-them-for-ten-nicole-anderson
im-really-interested-in-kind-weird-social-situations-cliques-watching-girls-vying-for-attention-watching-how-popularity-thing-happens-ive-always-thought-too-hard-about-everything
midnight-to-six-cliques-pullin-sweet-vicks-fulfullin-cream-dreams-takin-niggaz-out-mix-ninepound-locked-down-by-you-yo-crew-but-watch-yo-back-nigga-mad-skillz
i-was-never-troublemaker-but-i-also-was-never-nerdy-kid-i-was-never-cool-kid-sports-kid-at-lunchtimes-i-never-fit-in-with-any-cliques-id-end-up-just-walking-around-school-by-myse
i-remember-general-anxiety-teenager-i-remember-establishing-some-sort-appearance-based-on-what-my-peers-would-think-and-cliques-oh-my-god-worst-the-worst
To see how we separate, we first have to examine how we get together. Friendships begin with interest. We talk to someone. They say something interesting and we have a conversation about it. However, common interests don't create lasting bonds. Otherwise, we would become friends with everyone with whom we had a good conversation. Similar interests as a basis for friendship doesn't explain why we become friends with people who have completely different interests than we do. In time, we discover common values and ideals. However, friendship through common values and ideals doesn't explain why atheists and those devout in their faith become friends. Vegans wouldn't have non-vegan friends. In the real world, we see examples of friendships between people with diametrically opposed views. At the same time, we see cliques form in churches and small organizations dedicated to a particular cause, and it's not uncommon to have cliques inside a particular belief system dislike each other. So how do people bond if common interests and common values don't seem to be the catalyst for lasting friendships? I find that people build lasting connections through common problems and people grow apart when their problems no longer coincide. This is why couples especially those with children tend to lose their single friends. Their primary problems have become vastly different. The married person's problems revolve around family and children. The single person's problem revolves around relationships with others and themselves. When the single person talks about their latest dating disaster, the married person is thinking I've already solved this problem. When the married person talks about finding good daycare, the single person is thinking how boring the problems of married life can be. Eventually marrieds and singles lose their connection because they don't have common problems. I look back at friends I had in junior high and high school. We didn't become friends because of long nights playing DandD. That came later. We were all loners and outcasts in our own way. We had one shared problem that bound us together: how to make friends and relate to others while feeling so 'different'. That was the problem that made us friends. Over the years as we found our own answers and went to different problems, we grew apart. Stick two people with completely different values and belief systems on a deserted island where they have to cooperate to survive. Then stick two people with the same values and interests together at a party. Which pair do you think will form the stronger bond? When I was 20, I was living on my own. I didn't have many friends who were in college because I couldn't relate to them. I was worrying about how to pay rent and trying to stretch my last few dollars for food at the end of the month. They were worried about term papers. In my life now, the people I spend the most time with have kids, have careers, are thinking about retirement and are figuring out their changing roles and values as they get older. These are problems that I relate to. We solve them in different ways because our values though compatible aren't similar. I feel connected hearing about how they've chosen to solve those issues in a way that works for them.

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